Parishoner Submission: Self-Criticism VS. Self-Evaluation
Why are we often our own worst enemy?
For reasons sometimes unknown, we set unrealistic expectations and then are critical of ourselves when we don’t live up to them. And often our own (or others’) self-criticism can undermine our relationship with God and others.
We all make errors in judgment, mistakes, and usually fall short without making sound decisions. This can leave us discouraged and frustrated. What can we do about it?
Ralph Waldo Emerson says, “Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.”
Well, that’s great advice. However, in addition, perhaps we should look to God’s grace.
Second Peter, verse 18 tells us, “but continue to grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. To him be the glory now and forever! “*
While we remember that we are on a spiritual journey and are in need of improvement, making a habit of self-evaluation can be a helpful method of growth. We all need to make adjustments sometimes to get back to living a fulfilled and productive life.
What’s the big difference between self-evaluation and self-criticism?
Self-Evaluation is constructive and beneficial as it helps us to recognize the areas where we need to improve.
Self-Criticism on the other hand can be destructive and can lead to discouragement and discontent.
If God is the head of a great crowd of witnesses, and we accept that he is cheering us on, we must believe that he’s not criticizing us, but with his help and by his loving Holy Spirit he is helping us to grow in his grace and mercy and to understand that we are still a work in progress.
*Good News Bible
Submitted By:
Jane Benditt ©
5/15/2024